Archives » October, 2009

One year out

As October got nearer and nearer I thought about what would I do on the 20th, the first anniversary of my daughter Stephanies death last year at age 24. I wanted to do something, but a special event doesnt suit my personality, nor what Stephanie would  have wanted. My older son Tim has grieved at his pace only […]

Outlets That Release the Pain

First, I invite you to read Chris’ wonderfully open and insightful comment to “Grieving At My Own Pace” before reading this. Yes, our culture has for a long time and still says to men, “Don’t cry. Be strong.” This destructive message and pressure flies in the very opposite direction of how we (all humans) are […]

Grieving and Respect

Steve’s comment to “Grieving At My Own Pace” reflects how vastly different two people can grieve the same loss. I read in his words and in his tone something I have come to find an important quality in how spouses grieve “together.” In a word: respect. It’s important that I respect the way my wife […]

Grieving At My Own Pace

As I’m grieving the recent loss of my father, I see how the grieving process is different among various family members. Susan, my wife, is grieving differently than I am, and it reminds me of the significant differences in how and when we grieved after Warren died. I try to  take a “no fear” approach […]

A Father’s Mourning

My father passed away three days ago. Included in the many thoughts and feelings that come with grieving this loss, I’m pondering what kind of father he was and the kind of father I am and want to be. I want to be sure to reflect the finest qualities of love: patient; kind; not proud; […]

My name is Rick. My son’s name was Warren.

Greetings. I’ve decided to join you as a member of Fathers Forever, and I look forward to meeting each of you. When talking with Craig and hearing him describe this blog, it reminded me of something I wanted very much to do after Susan (my wife) and I lost Warren in 1987. Between my being in […]