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Thought for the Day

Mourning is not forgetting… It is an undoing. Every minute tie has to be untied and something permanent and valuable recovered and assimilated from the dust. The end is gain, of course. Blessed are they that mourn, for they shall be made strong, in fact. But the process is like all other human births, painful […]

One year out

As October got nearer and nearer I thought about what would I do on the 20th, the first anniversary of my daughter Stephanies death last year at age 24. I wanted to do something, but a special event doesnt suit my personality, nor what Stephanie would  have wanted. My older son Tim has grieved at his pace only […]

Outlets That Release the Pain

First, I invite you to read Chris’ wonderfully open and insightful comment to “Grieving At My Own Pace” before reading this. Yes, our culture has for a long time and still says to men, “Don’t cry. Be strong.” This destructive message and pressure flies in the very opposite direction of how we (all humans) are […]

Grieving and Respect

Steve’s comment to “Grieving At My Own Pace” reflects how vastly different two people can grieve the same loss. I read in his words and in his tone something I have come to find an important quality in how spouses grieve “together.” In a word: respect. It’s important that I respect the way my wife […]

Grieving At My Own Pace

As I’m grieving the recent loss of my father, I see how the grieving process is different among various family members. Susan, my wife, is grieving differently than I am, and it reminds me of the significant differences in how and when we grieved after Warren died. I try to  take a “no fear” approach […]

A Father’s Mourning

My father passed away three days ago. Included in the many thoughts and feelings that come with grieving this loss, I’m pondering what kind of father he was and the kind of father I am and want to be. I want to be sure to reflect the finest qualities of love: patient; kind; not proud; […]

My name is Rick. My son’s name was Warren.

Greetings. I’ve decided to join you as a member of Fathers Forever, and I look forward to meeting each of you. When talking with Craig and hearing him describe this blog, it reminded me of something I wanted very much to do after Susan (my wife) and I lost Warren in 1987. Between my being in […]

Happy(?) Fathers Day

Ah, another Fathers Day.  For me, it’s now bittersweet; the painful stab has dulled to a sting, and I’m more focused on what I have (including happy memories) than what (who) I lost — though that’s not far from my heart and mind. Of course it’s different for everybody, so wherever you are this Fathers Day — emotionally and […]

The “club” nobody asked to join

I’m struck by the depth of the relationships I’ve made thru Fathers Forever — with men who, but for our respective tragedies, I probably never would have met or had anything in common with.  Chalk it up to life’s strange twists and turns…  -David Domeshek

FF Globe Article

Very much appreciate Bella’s thoughtful article.   I hope that it serves to reach out to other fathers and that FF can grow to provide understanding fellowship, conversation, and even friendship to those bound by life’s most challenging loss.   With added talent and initiative, it’s my hope that we can do much more for each other, our […]